Welcome to my personal brand ‘To Believe To Create’. I own and operate a self-help blog where I document my personal fears and insecurities. I write about how I cope and manage them in order to live the best version of myself. I am not perfect nor do I want to pretend to be. I cannot grow and reach the next level if I am already perfect. The joy is in the journey, not the destination. When you focus on perfection, you miss out on life experiences. However, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t strive for it. That is what makes the difference between living a life second to none and not living at all-when you embrace your imperfections all while setting out for perfection.
I have not always been happy being imperfectly perfect. I struggled for many years living in the realm of never being good enough. I hated looking at the person starring back at me in the mirror. My soul was empty and my heart was cold. I did not trust others and I sure as hell didn’t trust myself. I was a victim to my life circumstances and lived in guilt, shame and remorse for years. I was officially hopeless in 2010 and threw in my cards.
I am fortunate that my cards were not accepted and I was shown a different way of life. I dug my heels in and began working on myself day in and day out. I read books, attended self help groups, journaled, sought outside help (therapy and psychiatry services), prayer, meditation, trauma exercises and the list goes on. I was afraid to die of regret and therefore became willing to do it all in order to heal and find the meaning of happiness.
Since that day, I’ve committed to facing my past, accepting my present and working for my future. I continue to push myself out of my comfort zone and into uncertainty. I have been through a lot over the last 32 years as you will learn through my blog. Every Tuesday I have a new EXPOSED blog sharing and exposing my imperfections and human characteristics that make up me. I share about my recovery from drugs and alcohol, my attempt at suicide, and the struggles of motherhood to name a few. I remember feeling so alone and isolated, that no one out there knew how I felt. And I want others, including you, to know you are not alone in any of the things you think and feel.
However, it isn’t just enough to connect with someone, or to know that you are not alone. You must take action in order to change. You must learn your thought process, identify what is working and what isn’t and ultimately clean house. I have the windex, paper towels and bleach ready when you are.
Will it be easy? Absolutely not. Will it be worth it? Abso-fucking-lutely! I will forewarn you, I am intense. I am blunt and I am straightforward. I swear and I tell you how it is. There is no time for fluffing shit up to look pretty. It is your life, there is no time for fluff. Time stops for no one. I am not for everyone and that is okay. I tried for many years to change my core traits and wound up miserable. Today I embrace them because it makes me, me and it makes me good at what I do.
Not only does my raw, black and white personality help me to be a successful life coach, but my professional experiences help me as well. I have always found myself in some career of helping others. I have been a special education teacher, an ABA therapist, an at-risk youth counselor, a clinical therapist, an Assistant Program Director at a psych facility and a licensed social worker. I love to help. It is where my passion comes to life. Essentially by helping you, I continue to help myself and continue to grow. Thus, the creation of my personal brand!
What better way to grow then to grow along side others. We are more powerful alongside others, then we are alone. Yet so many of us try to fix the problem with the same thing that made it- our thoughts and actions. If you continue to do and act the same way, you create insanity, not success. Have you had enough insanity in your life? If so, it’s time to ask for help.
Life is so precious and unfortunately so short. By the time we start to get a grasp on it, it’s over. So why waste any more? Start living the life you were destined to live. You were not put on this earth to live a half ass-mediocre life. You were born to be awesome! And you are. You are fucking awesome!
So buckle up for the ride of your life! Your life starts NOW!
Life Coach and Writer
Owner of To Believe To Create